Well they're definitely not gaining self-awareness anyway
He had literally said those exact words to me in a text and still didn’t realize that I was talking about him 😂
What a dim wit
After 34 weeks, still so dim.
All that light, but he's still so dim
dimmer than a dwarf star seen from an orbit well past neptune.
Dimmer than a red dwarf in another galaxy seen from Earth at noon
I desperately want you to respond to his comment telling him that you were literally talking about him. Please. I'm begging.
Edit: found your imgur post. Way better.
I can’t, he unfriended me. This was a while ago but I didn’t know how to post pics on reddit back then 😂😂😂
He probably unfriended you because you started dating some Chad. /s
Nah I’d already been with my current bf for about 6 months when this happened. Probably politics. It’s usually politics.
Leave your BF for me. I’d treat you better than that stupid chad who probably beats you.
Leave your bf for me, a stranger
Hes probably abusive
I guess I should be abusive too bc my morals are purely contingent on whatever behavior I think will get me laid
You're not even pretty
Hope you get raped
-Literally every Nice Guy(tm)
Oh wow you're in a monogamous relationship? That's such a slut thing to do!
Good thing she's ugly anyway. We were doing her a favour by hitting on her!
I’m really getting tired of this shit.
Stop taking all our women then!
Is that an incell slang for women? (Just curious cause I never seen it before)
I read “folds” and it worked just as well
Sounds like you were one of the girls/women he was talking about. Probably for the best. Sorry you had to deal with that.
Nice guys don't finish last. Self unaware guys finish last.
Which, incidentally, is the same thing that allows them to believe they're nice. When they were never nice.
Isn't finishing last mean you're better in bed?
Yes. Happy cake day.
Unless you're a nice guy, then you dont finish at all.
He is definitely /r/whoosh
Idk if it’s roulette, it looks like a negative karma train haha
Is he drowning in women now that he's an asshole?
“He’s knee deep in clunge”
People like that often aren’t all that intelligent 🤷🏻♂️
He’s a teacher 😂
I've met some pretty dumb teachers.
They've come to regret it, I give em hell, lmao
He probably shouldn’t be 😂
Should've just replied "I was talking about you. You're a dick."
Ignorance is bliss
He’s a nice guy not a smart one.
just tell him he's an asshole
"You're the asshole. It's been you the whole time. What a twist!"
rt tho why be so passive-aggressive?
I used to be a nice guy a couple years back and I'm so god damn ashamed
I've literally never heard anyone say "nice guys finish last" that wasn't an asshole.
Well at least now he can get the girl \s
All parties involved are douchebags. Clearly fake. OP a should be ashamed and take a long hard look in the mirror. Outraged
The sound of that post flying over his head just lowered local property values
Nothing goes over his head. His reflexes are too fast. He will catch it.
And I bet he is also extraordinarily humble.
And he can stand so still you won’t see him.
This is the greatest insult I’ve ever heard
Indeed, I will add this to my collection
Username checks out. You’re just one of those asshole chads that steals all the girls from us, nice guys /s
Saving this for later use
Happy cake day! Consider it my gift to you.
Plz tell me that you replied something along the lines off "So when are you going to have the realization?"
Haha, top tier banter right there!
Man down, MAN DOWN!
Mission Failed, We'll Get 'Em Next Time
Well now I need to know how he reacted to this!
He “took a break from social media” and at some point he unfriended me 😂 I only noticed because he used to always make smartass comments about my running posts and then one day I noticed that he hadn’t in a while but was back on FB because I’d seen him comment on a mutual friend’s posts... and boom, not on my friends list. I immediately curled up into the fetal position and cried myself to sleep.
Did you die tho
Did you die, though?
This guy has some real issues...
How could you let such a winner escape from you?!
I love it. I just love it. I truly hope he realized just how badly he embarrassed himself.
In five years every girl friend of yours is gonna have a story about how this dude was creepy towards them. Bet
Maybe he deleted his Facebook account. Nothin personnel, kid.
She literally said that she knew he was still on fb because he was commenting on a mutual friend's post.
Never been so disappointed about something not being a legitimate subreddit before.
I think what you want that sub to be is what /r/selfawarewolves is anyway.
Phew, that sub is ENTIRELY political. I don't think I've ever seen a regular sub that isn't expressly political in nature have such political content.
Really a bummer. I just wanted some laughs.
It wasn't always like that. But Reddit just likes to ruin nice things
Needs to be a thing.
Then make it. You have the power.
...do I? How do I even? >.>
Make the subreddit?
I dunno how xD
Everything you need: http://bfy.tw/Ml5p
Here on reddit we call it a woosh
my apologies friend
I really liked the original post I thought wow if more people do these PSA’s we might be able to eliminate a good percentage of nice guys...then I read the comment. I give up.
Self-awareness is as unattainable to them as women.
Only assholes become self-aware so I'm gonna start being an asshole.
This is a lack of self awareness even god himself could not manage
If God is omnipotent, could God create a skull so thick that not even God could get through it? The mind (medievally) boggles.
"Humans never worship nice gods so I'm going to start being an asshole"
Hmm, kinda makes sense
I want to believe you made this up, but I know better
Found the nice guy
I don't think you understood him/her....
History repeats itself..
Are you mansplaining?
Could go either way... I went for the joke
Can we be clear on this, once and for all?
Men desire women who are nice, sweet, feminine and loyal.
thats also exactly what women desire in men.
No need to be an asshole. Just keep being nice. Be what you yourself want in a mate. That always works.
I mean, how do you define feminine?
Emotionally available. Opening up and showing weakness tends to be a feminine trait.
So you’re defining femininity by being emotionally healthy? Okay. Yeah. Women want emotionally healthy partners.
Uhh... No. I didn't even make the claim to begin with. I said emotional availability is a stereotypical feminine trait. No person is wholly masculine or feminine. If you're completely one or the other you're likely not a emotionally healthy person. Being a well rounded person means dipping into both masculinity and femininity. Its not a binary where you're one or the other, its a sliding scale with a bias towards one or the other.
Women desire feminine men? I'm not saying it's always wrong but I think they like masculine guys too
I'm a fairly feminine guy. I get hit on a lot by women. I'm also mostly gay, so...
I didn't say they don't. I just said they don't only want feminine guys.
Unless I'm completely wrong and all those jacked muscle bois should stop going to the gym if they want women.
That's fair enough. Everyone has different preferences. Some people don't even care about appearance at all and just focus on personality
You can be totally ripped and still be emotionally available
You're generalizing things. There will be people who like those. And people who are attracted to the opposite of that. Everyone's different.
sorry mate but that's absolut bullshit. doesn't work that way.
So they like a feminine man
The trick isn't being nice or an asshole. The trick is being your own person and realizing you don't need girls, and that no matter how great one seems, there's another one that's just as great for you somewhere out there where you don't expect it.
You want a girlfriend but have no one? That's easy. Stop wanting a girlfriend nearly as much, to the point where you don't think about it every day. Deciding what you want is as easy as deciding. The bastards I feel bad for are the ones who are stuck on one girl, with too much distance built up between them. That's a lot more complicated.
I 10000% agree, the key is to stop caring and be yourself. Underated reply
This is an epic lack of self awareness.
When the powers that be were rolling his stats, this guy somehow wound up with a negative wisdom score.
Seriously how dense can they be???
22.61 g/cm3 for matter, 4×1014 g/cm3 if we start talking black holes.
Fair play, I walked into that one.
.......where is the logic!!!?
Imagine completely missing the point
If you’re that insecure about being alone you wont make anybody happy by being their bf. You gotta be fine with being alone and single before you can have a successful relationship. I have no sympathy for those douches
Honestly, I used to think like this and then I come to the conclusion that I doing have a GF because I am asocial and depressed. Because of this, I don't like talking to people so I have missed any opportunities to get a GF.
I am working on my mental health though and one day I will be in the right headspace to put myself out there and meet a nice girl.
Why isn't he getting the girls then? If he's the asshole and girls like assholes. 🙄 Not a single sense made.
Oh my God. What?! That is the most circular logic I have ever seen. Wow.
That's why Facebook needs a facepalm reaction button.
Damn, that's some meta niceguyness.
He needs some cheese for that whine.
I love this
He dense as shit
People with that mind set drive me nuts. No wonder your alone dude, stop the pity party and go out and actually enjoy something.
But if he's already an asshole and not getting girls, then deciding to still be an asshole isn't going to somehow make it more effective.
I should do this and thin out my FB
I feel like I just read an elder scroll without proper training
I love how they ALWAYS respond when called out. Their ego is so ridiculous they absolutely cannot resist complaining.
He missed the point so hard that it went all the way around the earth and stopped right behind him
"I'm not like those other assholes masquerading as nice guys turned back into assholes! I'm a (NICE GUY™️)™️"
Imagine being the exact guy the post was aimed at, and it still flying right over your head.
An endless cycle
This sub makes me feel terrible
This sub makes me feel like a fucking rock star daily!
I can be a real nice guy sometimes, and it makes me cringe with anguish every time i see this sub
As long as you take steps to better yourself you’re far from what we typically see on this sub!
I used to agree with statements like that. I looked at it from a different perspective though. Not that I have issues with woman, but I never got to witness how women picked who they liked. Found out actual good guys don't have any problems getting women at all. Then I found reddit and discovered what a nice guy was. Anyway I guess that would mean I might have been a nice guy? I don't really know.
Maybe, but either way it's good you were able to find a different perspective
Wait, nice guys that are nice guy-er than regular nice guys? How is this possible?
Did he even read your post 😂
Misogynist attitude aside...don't they know how incredibly whiny they sound?
Lol I'd be tempted to send him a screenshot
I really hope he sees this thread.
It’s an infinite loop!
how do you have that little self awareness oof
Schrodinger's asshole, he's simultaneously being a nice guy who can't get laid and a douchebag Chad who gets all the ladies.
i think i probably said those word for word back in high school
I said it when I was a teen too, I think the difference between a teen who’s having trouble in the romance department and a niceguy™ is that where a teen eventually has experiences that help them grow as people and become more mature, a niceguy™ never grows up.
I’m always iffy on upvoting a post because sometimes it’s hard to tell the ages of the people involved and I don’t like ridiculing teenagers who are just having a rough time. I’ll laugh at a real niceguy™ any time. But I guarantee you a lot of the posts that are made are about poor little 15 year old dudes who are just struggling to get a little love and their hormones are telling them that they need it right now. It’s not cool to laugh at kids for things outside of their control.
Chances are you are both shit.
woosh too hard
How can you read something like this and miss the point that hard? The self-awareness is not strong with this one.
Yeah, man...wait what?
Nice guy inception
I’d be more direct if I were you and unadd him
Really raising the bar with the passive aggressive Facebook posts.
How is she gonna know your a nice guy if your to scared to talk to her in the first place.
The irony is strong with this one.
Asshole and proud.
Of course he found a way to take reasonable advice and spin it in his favor
I'm going to start finding these people and introducing myself.
I'm nice - AND I get the girl.
Their heads will fucking explode.
Uno reverse card has been played
I legitimately don’t understand how people can be that self unaware. We all obviously struggle to understand ourselves but some people man, it’s just like, nah mean?
SO WHY DO GOOD GIRLS LILE BAAAD GUUUEYEYS
Sounds about right!! 👌🏼
You should comment back "I was talking about you" that's what I would have done.
Wow humans can actually live without a brain.
M E T A
ZERO SELF AWARENESS
"No, you're... err I mean, he's still an asshole, he just doesn't get laid."
The best part is if you read it again with the comment in mind, it's some asshole saying, "The nice guys, not me, never get the girl. But not me, I get girls all the time. Girls meant for nice guys."
Well done OP, you got em good.
And chances are the guy that posted this was... already a nice guy.
It’s assholes, all the way down
If you say it’s white, they’ll say it’s black. You can’t convince idiots.
The lack of self-awareness nice guys have is shocking
Okay, in college I used to say this same phrase ironically since I had started playing brad majors in the local Rocky horror shadow cast. Most people got a kick out of that joke.
Sounds like a nice guy.
An asshole with a girlfriend!!
OMG he did it! I thought there is no way someone was going to comment what he JUST SAID on the same post. And boom. Big ass woosh.
Needa just start mentioning them by name at this point, they'll never get it
It's crazy how they don't realize that they are the exact people targeted by this post oh my god
This post just collapsed in on itself.
I've had former friends who acted like this, and I've straight up said, "you're who I'm referring to". They always laughed it off or pretended not to hear me.
Forget self-awareness - dudes like this are in denial. They're actively working not to recognize how their behavior effects others. Run now while you have the chance
Just be an actual nice guy. If a girl is not interested move on. Odds are there is someone who wants to be with you regardless. So keep keeping at it ans just be yourself ffs
Oh look he outed himself as an asshole lol.
The root of incels 🙄
Hahaha that's classic! What an asshole!
Way to miss the point!
Don't worry, I'm an asshole, and women still hate me.
He said it!!!
You’re goddamn right
Side note: why do people post colorful pictures of text to their wall now instead of just writing text?
It is just writing text. FB gives the option to add a background to your text (if it's not too long) to make short status posts stand out more.
Oh ok. Thank you
It’s some version of decorating, I guess. Same reason greeting cards don’t really come in just flat white with plain writing text.
It's kind of like it wants to be a mix of text and a meme
What an asshole. I bet he gets all the girls.
To be fair a lot of good looking women are with complete tools lol.
I think a lot of people have 2 personalities. Like a public and a private one. Example - my boyfriend. Marine, 20+ years in. He can make grown men cry just by narrowing his eyes and raising his voice from his usual raspy whisper (he sounds like Vin Diesel) to a growl. But the man I know writes me cute cards, buys me little gifts, does my laundry and folds it, puts so much thought into buying me perfume, cooks for me, texts me good morning every single morning, takes care of me when I’m sick and has dance offs to Taylor Swift songs with me. Most men don’t want everyone to see their vulnerable side.
The cycle is complete.
That is not true. I did say that when I was a teenager multiple times. I guess it was my way to deal with the fact that I wasn't super successful with the girls I liked. But I don't remember or believe I tried to guilt-trip girls that way. I could say that to myself or friends that i didn't have interest in dating. I've said this once to my now-gf of 4 years and she told me I should just remain as I am and there will be someone compatible that will eventually like me for who I am, as there definitely are girls that prefer nicer guys. Turns out she was that way. So I don't believe that I should be an asshole to get girls anymore, I didn't have to be that way to be with one, even if I did once believe that was the case. People can learn and change their minds.
The photo was true, the troglodyte that commented was about as true as a flat earther reading anti-vax literature whilst getting stuffed up their buttholes by baseball bats made of splintered balsa wood for 80 hours a week.
Oh yeah, they're not getting paid OT, and they're not unionized.
Is there any other way to make this scenario worse from my end?
Balsa wood is kind of soft, isn’t it? Maybe something sharper would be worse.
Well some people out there are passive aggressive, eh?
To be completely honest as I've grown increasingly bitter about life (including dating), I've started entertaining angry thoughts very similar to what's posted here, even I don't actually believe any of it after the initial bout of frustration.
I like to think I have the self-awareness and logical reasoning to avoid being a classic /niceguy, but it's not a good feeling thinking I'm barely a step up purely because I'm better at pretending not to be an asshole.
You're right. Although posting something like that means you are also, in fact, an asshole.
This has nothing to do with OP, though.
Oh no, did the post make you feel personally attacked? Are you just too nice for girls to like you? That must suck.
You sound like a nice guy.
That's kind of rude.
I lol’d, but you’re still a dick.
i really dont know if this holds true. can someone give me an example of this? see for example for me: i just stepped onto a train i was waiting for and i had my eye on this nice corner seat. but a passenger wad getting out so i let him off first but this guy next to me just barged in without much care for the passengers getting off and immediately took the corner seat. like god damn it just because i was trying to be nice to let this passenger off first i lose a good seat.
i feel like these "nice guys" includes men that are courteous of a woman's schedule/space and what not. while these "assholes" dont really care and just goes for it and some how gets the girl.
i feel like the moral of "being an asshole" is more like "get what you want however it takes" sort of thing.
can anyone correct or clarify this for me?
Did you just compare all women to a seat on a train that an asshole "gets" because they want it - as though the women have no choice in the matter?
Women aren't "things" or "objects" that men get to take, own or win. We are individual human beings, worthy of respect in our own existence.
Trust me, even if you're polite enough to let someone off a train first, if you think a woman is like a train seat, you're already an asshole!
The high majority of women don't want "nice guys", "assholes", or "assholes who think their nice guys".
If it's for a one night thing, honestly, it probably doesn't matter who you are, as long as you're not visibly an asshole when the woman is around, and not clingy either (and yes, women are allowed to enjoy sex and just want a shag sometimes too). But, if that happens, what we don't want is an abuser or a stalker!
If it's for a relationship, most women want a partner who is confident in themselves - that means you have enough self respect, and self love, that you don't care if you're in a relationship or not, you are capable of going through life without a woman hand-holding you (so many people go from their parents house to their partner's, that they don't know how to exist as their own person). Ideally, you should know how to live on your own (cook, clean (including the toilet), do the dishes, pay bills, and generally take responsibility for yourself), even if you do still live with your parents, or an ex, doesn't mean you can't learn these things.
Get your own life first, and then, just maybe, you'll attract the right person for you, into that life!
I endorse this message 👍🏼
What you say definitely has value. And like you said women are not objects like a train seat, and because they are still people they can still have the will to reject an advance should they feel uncomfortable. And I apologize that the metaphor had made you uncomfortable.
Now lets flip the scenario, say the scenario was that Girl A, found both Guy A & B attractive enough that if one of them approaches her she would be eager to go out on say a date with either one of them. Now lets she is say sitting in a corner train seat like i described with my story, and while Guy A & B before getting on the train notices this Girl A and thinks about talking to her. While Guy B believes it is considerate to let the passenger off before getting on and thus waits, Guy A instantly barges in and starts talking to Girl A, and lets say a connection is instantly made. Therefore Guy B had lost his chance to speak with Girl A because he had waited for the passenger to get off. In this case is Guy A "confident" or an "asshole"? Where does one draw the line?
And this comes to the question of "what is classified as an asshole?" This is a very subjective question and is really dependent on person to person. A person that is very nice to you could act very selfish towards others. In those situations would you still classify them as "assholes"? Whats worse is if you are never able to observe this behaviour because the person is able to hide it so well from you. And if that is the case then is there really a "trusting bond" between you and that person?
There are countless examples of couples who one of clearly a selfish arrogant person and their partner is still able to love them for however reason. So by your definition, if a guy has enough self respect/love and if you are attracted to theses traits and he continues to treat you well, does it not matter how this person acts/treats other people? Obviously this again is dependent on the person and what they value, but the question I am trying to pose is that "is there really no truth in the phrase 'nice guys finish last'?"
I personally am trying to keep an open mind and thus asking these questions of the other end. But the amount of negative upvotes I am getting only leads me to believe that people of this subreddit are equally shallow and narrow minded.
Further clarification would be very much appreciated. Thank you.
Why not let the girl enjoy her train ride in peace?
She's not a prize to be won by the first bloke to harass her on a train! Just because they find her attractive doesn't mean that they are entitled to her time, attention or body!
Chances are that she is more interested in her book, music, social media, or whatever she's doing before you het on the train, and doesn't actually want to be interrupted!
Not to mention that she could be married and/or a lesbian and/or a serial killer. Just because she's attractive doesn't mean she's looking for anyone new in her life, even if she is, it doesn't mean it's going to be you, and even if she is, and k there's a tiny chance it might be you, it doesn't mean it's going to end well!
You have to have respect for others too truly have self respect, otherwise you are proving that you don't actually know the meaning of the word!
And yes, if you're an asshole to anyone, you're an asshole. Full stop.
I really enjoy how you avoided my question entirely and went on an entirely different route. I mean I probably am guilty of this as well.
I do see your point though, and again, definitely letting someone mind their own business is also important, but that's not what the question was, was it? If I had asked "what is the best place to get pizza" and you recommended me a burger that doesn't really help my cause does it?
And again my question was not "whether if you are an asshole to anyone then you are an asshole period", it was "if you cannot observe a person being an asshole then how do you then trust your judgement?"
But I now have kind of an answer to all of this, thank you for clarifying.
When your question is "does guy a or guy b get the girl", the answer is neither, because the girl isn't a prize to be "got"!
And you're right. If you don't know the person you're dating is an asshole, but they are to everyone else, then you don't like them BECAUSE they're an asshole. You like them for who they are around you. And, all being well, when you find out they're an asshole, you get the hell out of there in one piece!
And, to be fair, you asked a LOT of questions, and it's not my, nor anyone else's, responsibility to partake in the emotional labour of how not to harass random women you've only just met!
As an asshole, I can definitely confirm I get all the girls.
whoa I didn't say I have sex with them
The ever elusive nice girl/nice guy combo
I hate that being disrespectful gets women. But it is far more effective because it fakes self value.
If only there was some positive behavior set that also lined up with self value. I'll ask my confidants if they know of any.
I'm always looking for effective strategies.
Being disrespectful doesn't get women. People who have confidence attract women, but not when they're just rude, there's a place between being overly confident and lacking self esteem. People like confident guys, but not rude
Oh is there somewhere else I should be posting it instead? I guess because I was in a shitty mood that day and I was venting.
I wasn’t posting much on reddit back then, but good to know.
OK yeah, but why do you post passive aggressive, stupid questions on reddit?
FFS! It's her facebook - she can post what she likes!
But you didn't have to say anything...
Unless you're the asshole the OP is addressing the post to, it's no-one of your business what she posts on her FB!
Because you posted on someone else's thread.
If you post bullsh!t on your own threads, I'll ignore the f#ck out of it.
I couldn’t give a shit whether I’m already an asshole or not...I simply don’t care! Whatever it takes to bed the hot girls. THATS what I’m trying to do.
I'm sure that's working out swell for you Buddy.
Im getting exactly what I want: sex. Why is that such a bad thing?
I never said having sex was bad. I did imply that your attitude towards it isn't too great though. Whatever tho, you do you.
Yawn, typical white knight responses. Can’t you people come up with anything new? Seriously, it’s getting old.
Well I'm a woman so I don't think the term 'white knight' fits but whatever. Like I said you do you my dude. With that attitude I'm not sure many other people will.
I do me, yet you’re giving me shit for it...
Probably because this isn't really the sub to be talking about being an asshole just to shag hot girls. I'm sure there are other subs that would appreciate that, but the sentiment doesn't really swing here. 🤷♀️
Yet that’s exactly what the post is talking about...